Are you living in your life season?
Learn how to thrive in your forties and embrace the season you are in.
I think I was deep in baby land a so called ‘geriatric mother’ in her forties who was also tipping into perimenopause sludge… when it happened.
I was mindlessly scrolling on social media and one of my favourite friends was dancing on a decadent roof terrace, hands in the air looking absolutely fabulous. Another was pulling up wellies ready to take on Glastonbury.
In comparison, I was dressed in my PJs, feeling upside down both mentally and physically and felt worlds away from my disco buddy and festival friend.
In fact, I felt light years away from that carefree girl who used to dance by their sides. I found myself flicking at old pictures on my phone 8 years ago and barely recognized myself from that time.
While I am so happy for my friends (and must add in advance that I love my family and so grateful for the life that I have) I felt a pang of jealousy.
The reason behind this is because a part of me, in that moment, wished for those years of spontaneity and dancing on a roof terrace, and everything that period represented. Side note – no money in the world would get me on that roof top at that time.
I missed being in my twenties and early thirties.
"Being truly honest, I felt like a washed up forty-something."
I then came across an amazing article by Kimberly Gillan called Are you in Tune with your Life Season. It detailed the idea how life is made up of continuous moments and like the seasons they are only temporary. The people that can lean into their current life season and stop comparing themselves to others, are the ones that are more content and thriving.
This felt like a mindset game changer and a strategy I wanted to share with you.
So when I was going through a divorce, in my thirties I watched my friends fall in love, get married and have babies and I longed for this to happen to me too. I continuously compared myself to people who were getting married. During that period of my life I unfairly told myself I was a failure – Janet my inner critic was at this point hogging the karaoke limelight.
In retrospect my divorce was like Winter of slowing down, hibernating, and taking care of myself. How I wish I could go back in time and reassure myself that this season will pass, and Spring will come again.
It made me think, what if we started becoming more in tune with our life season and moments in life?
"What if we accepted that we are all living in different stages of our lives and like the seasons they will return."